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summer heat and ultimately destroyed by rust. Likewise, all people love those who are sweet tempered and they alone are safeguarded forever; but nobody likes the hard hearted and harsh nature persons for they are of no avail. That is why they are ridiculed and condemned everywhere. A man should always be tender by nature, sweet in speech and humble in conduct. Only then a man will be termed a man in right earnest.
We should learn politeness in words and speech also. Sometimes there lies possibility of clash or bitterness due to words spoken abruptly without proper thinking.
Once an Indian gentleman went to America. He had to address a conference there. When his turn came, he stood up and started delivering his speech. Meanwhile, seeing the Indian speaker, the American members of the conference started laughing. The Indian speaker felt insulted and got a bit enraged. In anger he spoke, "Fifty percent Americans are fools." As soon as the American members heard these words, a commotion prevailed in the conference hall and the Americans got out of control. “No, No, Sorry gentlemen, pardon me. Fifty percent Americans are wise." On hearing these changed words, also conveying the same sense, the American members became calm again. It clearly proves harsh words cause clash and tender words result in peace. Therefore, learn by heart these sane words of advice; "Treat everybody with politeness, even those who are rude to you. For, remember that you show courtesy to others not because they are gentlemen, but because you are one." Hence every person should speak beneficial, friendly, affectionate and sweet words. The wise seers have said, 'Sweet words cost nothing, but buy everything'. Given below are some wise definitions of the virtue of compassion or tenderness in the words of the great poet Reidhu:
Madu bhav madnru manr nrikndnru, dya dhamhu bhool ji vimlu Savham hiyaru gunr gunrsaru, tishun vyun sanjam sehlu Madu manr kashay vihamhnru madu panchidiy manr danhnru Madu dhamay karunra valli pasrayi chitr mahihin nravalli Madu jinrvar bhati pyasi madu kumarh pasru nrinrasand Madvenr bahu vinray pavtii madvenr janr badru uhtayi Madvenr parinram vishudhi, madvenr thuliy ham siddhi madvenr do vihu tau sohi, madvenr nrru tijgu vimohi madav jinr sasnr janrijeyi, appa par saruv bhavijyi madau dos asais nrivaryi, madu jam uahin utaryi
samdansnr angu sadu parinramu ji munrhu iya pariyanrivichitr madu dhamu amal dhunrhu
1. This virtue of compassion or tenderness (Mardav Dharma) overcomes the world i.e., conquers everyone in the world. It subdues vanity. This compassion or humility is at the root of mercy. It is the cause of unblemished conduct and is beneficial to all. It is superb amongst all the virtues; and vows and self-control are fulfilled and exercised only with compassion or humility.
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