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Harmony in Marriage
Harmony in Marriage
couple occurs if one or the other party prevents discord with the knowledge discussed so far.
(411) Questioner: Under which circumstances is divorce justified?
Dadashri: These darn divorces are something that has just come about. Previously there was no such thing as a divorce.
Questioner: But nowadays they take place, so under which circumstances should one take a divorce?
Dadashri: If there is no possibility of harmony, then it is better to separate. If no adjustments are possible, then it is better to separate. Otherwise, I say one thing only 'Adjust everywhere. Don't try to multiply things between the two by saying "he's like this and she's like that'.
Questioner: These divorces that take place in the west, when two people do not get along, are they considered bad?
Dadashri: What is the meaning of a divorce anyway? Are these all cups and saucers? You cannot separate a cup and a saucer, you cannot divorce them and so then how can you separate a man and a woman? It may be acceptable for the Americans, but you are an Indian. Once there used to be a vow of one wife-one husband. The thinking used to be except for one's own wife, one did not even look at another woman. Where then do thoughts of divorce have any dignity in such a place? Do you like divorces?
In the animal kingdom, amongst the dogs, there are divorces and now the humans are doing this also. So what differences are left? Man is living like a beast. In our Hindustan, there would not be another marriage after the first one. If the
wife died, one would not get married. What spiritual purity of the men that were born then!
If a couple is on the verge of getting divorced, I will reunite them in one hour; if you bring them to me. I will mend them in one hour, so the two will be stuck together again. This is all merely due to fears from lack of understanding. Many couples that were separated have now been happily reunited.
(413) These are all our moral values. They go on quarrelling and yet live together for eighty years. Even during the funeral rites on the thirteenth day, the widow would prepare everything that her late husband liked. She would even order food all the way from Bombay for the ceremony. A young boy would ask the old widow "Maji, (title used to address elderly ladies), six months ago he pushed you and at that time you were being verbally abusive towards him. She would reply 'Even then, I would not find another husband like him. That is what the old widow would say. From the experience of the entire life, she will find out that at heart he was a nice man. His traits were awkward but at heart he was good.
(414) Our life should be lived in such a way that people would take note of us. We are Indians. We are not Americans. We are such that we abide by and endure by the women and the women would abide by and endure the men. In this manner eighty years of life together passes. Foreigners they do not tolerate even for an hour, neither he nor she would endure even for an hour
(415) The fireworks of everyone's prakruti are exploding. Where did these fireworks come from?
Questioner: They belong to each and everyone's innate
