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queue at the supermarket check-out, or the 'slow' car driving in front of us etc. To fundamentally end negative themes of life, it helps
to dispassionately examine whether we are not arbitrarily ascribing negative feelings to events, persons or objects that have no real connection to them to realize that all emotions - even those we don't like - originate within US, - and that this gives us the
precious chance to change or to neutralize them • to find out what an event wants to tell us
to consider the ultimate consequences if we'd really act on our negative impulses - and whether the prompting
event is worth that price • to ask ourselves whether we need to react to a
'negative event in the first place, and • to decide to follow an entirely different - positive - line
of thought or action A poised, neutral attitude at the occurrence of uncomfortable feelings and experiences generally prevents an automatic negative emotional reaction of ours - which would only attach us to similar events in the future.
This may not always be easy. It takes a major effort to give up swift blame of others and to stop an habitual animosity towards specific outside factors. Specially in the beginning it requires real honesty to admit to ourselves that our own prejudices triggered our unpleasant emotion.
It takes considerably more energy to build this new understanding than to succumb to well-known, familiar irritation. Yet
